Setting New Year ‘Resolutions’ | 3 Tips on How to set yourself up for success and my 2021 resolutions

I am not one to write these kinds of blog posts; nor do I find myself reading these types of posts often. If 2020 has taught us anything is to appreciate small wins, heck just surviving this year is the biggest win of all. We may have not mastered at-home workouts or baking or learning to play an instrument – I definitely didn’t do any of that but self-reflection during a year like this sort of happens whether you like it or not.

Now I have never been a resolutions type of person (with the exception of fitness type goals – which never actually happened). BUT at the end of last year, I had type a few goals on my laptop and hadn’t actually looked at them till a few weeks ago.

I’ll list them below

  1. To be realistic about what can be accomplished in a day – set to-do lists with what you actually can get done.
  2. Not to procrastinate the day away and even if I am starting tasks at 3 pm – that’s okay
  3. To read 70 books this year – delve into longer reads, more crime/mystery genre, and not make it a race to read as many books as possible.
  4. To financially not overspend for the sake of spending. Use the products I have, only buy what I really want. Take a break from buying books until I’ve read a decent amount and donate the books I don’t want to keep.

I hadn’t actually paid much attention to them but when I reread them the first one got me good. I realized how much progress I had made with that first one and I hadn’t even realized I’d done it until I got back into blogging.

I had taken an unintentionally long break from blogging for about 8 months (this blog not Instagram). When I started to decided that I wanted to get back into I realized I needed to change up how I approached it. I have a full-time job and this is a hobby that whilst once in a while I’m lucky enough to get to work with brands – I plan to keep as a hobby. So I set myself realistic boundaries of what was realistic e.g. how often to post and I won’t go into it in detail because I did talk about it during my first post back which I’ll link here if you want to have a read.

Now all this just made me realize that it is possible to achieve goals and “resolutions” it’s just the way you approach them. So I wanted to share what tips I follow and will keep following to do my best at achieving those goals. Firstly I wanted to delve into my goals last year and reflect on the progress made. Share my tips and talk about what goals I want to embrace in 2021.

Okay so let’s talk about my 2020 goals which I listed earlier.

To be realistic about what can be accomplished in a day – set to-do lists with what you actually can get done.

  • The one I feel like I’ve tackled best! I use to always dwell on the days where I procrastinated and didn’t get everything I want to be done. I would always look at my to-do list – particularly what I wasn’t able to complete. Now whatever I don’t complete I just simply add to next weeks’ to-do list. If I have a super productive day (hooray), if not it’s okay.
  • I’m actually so proud of myself for improving on this. Old me would have driven myself crazy on the days where I wasn’t able to get much done. Sometimes it’s okay to do absolutely nothing, not every day can be productive.
  • I also have set myself very realistic to-do lists trying not to add a crazy amount of things on. Also, if on that ‘realistic’ to-do list not everything gets ticked off – I am okay with that. Anything that does get completed is a win in my eyes.

Not to procrastinate the day away and even if I am starting tasks at 3 pm – that’s okay –

  • I am a morning person to a fault. What that means is I have the most motivation, clear thinking, energy and just productive capability in the mornings. So if my mornings get taken over or halted in any way that usually mean the entire day is a ride of (once again if that happens, tomorrow is a new day).
  • What I have tried to do is even if I lose my morning I try and think of what can get completed? Can I snap a couple of photos? Edit some photos? Brainstorm an idea for a blog post.
  • I do and try and allow myself to at least get something done that day even if my morning doesn’t go to plan. It’s okay if I can’t get anything done but it’s nice to know even if I get to 3pm without one thing completed I can still turn it around.

To read 70 books this year – delve into longer reads, more crime/mystery genre, and not make it a race to read as many books as possible. –

  • I didn’t hit this number, not even close and that’s okay. Just maintaining the habit of reading for a year and a half is a win for me. As I write this, it is the 22nd of December and I have currently read 35 books, that’s still a decent number and maybe I can get to an even 40 if I’m lucky by the end of the year.
  • When I wasn’t working, I of course had all the time in the world to read and could smash out 2.5 books a week.
  • When I first started my job it would talk me a minimum of a week to finish one book and recently it’s been taking me an average of 3.5 weeks per book.
  • I am working on getting back into a more frequent habit as I found I wasn’t enough if at all on weekends but I’m just trying to be realistic with how quickly I can finish a book.
  • Basically, during the workweek, I have my commute to and from work to read, my commute back home I read less. So it’s basically the commute + weekends I get to read so being realistic by how quickly I can read a book is wise.

To financially not overspend for the sake of spending. Use the products I have, only buy what I really want. Take a break from buying books until I’ve read a decent amount and donate the books I don’t want to keep.

  • With this goal, I landed somewhere in the middle. Looking at it positively, I have been saving (although I could improve in this department) and I haven’t lived paycheck to paycheck.
  • The part where I mentioned reducing my book purchases I feel like I have achieved. I already have an insane amount of books sitting on my shelf to read (with a broad range of genres) – so I don’t need to convince myself to keep buying to mix up variety – I have that variety. I have not purchased any new books since the 21st of June. That’s a huge milestone considering I was purchasing books every month and I easily have a good 130 books sitting on myself to read.
  • I am still in no rush to buy new books the rate at which I am getting through books I won’t run out of them anytime soon nor will I lose any variety. In general, my goal of saving money and not overly purchasing has room for improvement, especially in the makeup department. This will be a focus in next years’ goals as you will see.
  • I definitely have so much room for improvement in this category especially how loose I’ve gotten with spending in November/December – you guys know I buy way too much makeup! But it is something I am still working on!

Now I want to talk about a few tips when it comes to setting goals/resolutions – obviously, I am no expert but if these can even motivate you to consider setting some kind of goals then that’s a win!

  1. They don’t need to be specific, sometimes I like to set a general goal and then some “specifics” in regards to an action plan. For me personally, if it’s vague it’s easier for me to embrace it. The specifics usually sneak on you without realizing it.
  2. The mentality that you have to commence goals/resolutions on the 1st of January and go each day without breaking them is silly. I didn’t even commence my first goal (unintentionally) till September, heck you could start a goal on December 1st – there is no right or wrong way of doing it.
  3. It’s okay if you don’t accomplish all of them. When I spoke about my 2020 goals earlier I didn’t necessarily 100% complete them. Any progress is a win and looking at what aspects of a goal you have approved on are so important.

Now let’s talk about my 2021 resolutions

  1. Get better at saving money (which anyone who is into makeup or is a beauty blogger) knows this can be a challenge.
  2. Improve with creating new habits – in both skincare and exercise
  3. Improve my relationship with food – balanced portions, balanced healthy eating and improve on cooking and learn to enjoy cooking
  4. Pan beauty products, shop my stash, and enjoy my collection rather than constantly buying new products
  5. Get back into creative writing/short stories/think of an idea for a novel
  6. Say yes to new things and not throw so much negative energy anytime my plans for the day change and get outside my comfort zone
  7. Push myself in my Job – challenge myself
  8. Improve socially – get better at small talk and be open to new experiences
  9. Get my driver’s license

Now I’ve listed quite a lot and while they seem almost specific. I haven’t gone into HOW I plan to achieve them or a mindset that they need to be completed by this time next year. I’ve listed a lot as a way to increase the chances of me improving in some.

I’ll hopefully write a post about this and reflect on the progress made on the goals for this upcoming year. Maybe I’ll only achieve one or none but setting a baseline is at least a starting point.

What are some goals you want to achieve in 2021?

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18 Comments

  1. Danielle Beautyblog

    December 28, 2020 at 11:36 pm

    You set great goals! I need to do similar esp with buying makeup/saving/panning! xx

    Danielle’s Beauty Blog 

    1. The Makeup Aficionado

      December 29, 2020 at 12:57 am

      2021 needs to be the year I stop taking it too far with my makeup purchases!

  2. Jenna

    December 29, 2020 at 1:11 am

    I think being realistic about what you can do in a day is so important. Thanks for sharing this post!
    Jenna ♥
    Stay in touch? Life of an Earth Muffin

    1. The Makeup Aficionado

      December 30, 2020 at 1:34 am

      It’s seriously so underrated, we get carried away wanting to accomplish the world in one day that we beat ourselves up because accomplishing everything is immpossible.

  3. Laura

    December 29, 2020 at 9:31 am

    I haven’t been reading this year so much, so seeing your reading goal makes me want to set up one for myself as well x

    Laura
    https://www.beautywithlala.com/

    1. The Makeup Aficionado

      December 30, 2020 at 1:35 am

      I went from reading 2.5 books a week to now taking an average of 2 weeks per book – that started to drive me crazy but I promise if I can get into reading you can 2, even if it’s a chapter a day – it’s so good for the mind.

    1. The Makeup Aficionado

      December 30, 2020 at 1:36 am

      Thank you. x

  4. Lovely

    December 30, 2020 at 5:49 am

    You did good with your goals. Good luck with your New Year resolutions!
    xoxo
    Lovely
    http://www.mynameislovely.com

    1. The Makeup Aficionado

      December 30, 2020 at 9:00 pm

      Thank you lovely! x

  5. Lenne Zulkiflly

    December 30, 2020 at 6:15 pm

    You did pretty well! All the best for your 2021 resolutions. Those are some great resolutions. Happy new year xx

    lenne | lennezulkiflly.com

    1. The Makeup Aficionado

      December 30, 2020 at 9:00 pm

      Thank you! I hope you have a lovely new year. x

  6. Radi

    December 30, 2020 at 11:35 pm

    I agree with you…so important to set realistic goals!
    Happy 2021!

    http://www.fashionradi.com

    1. The Makeup Aficionado

      December 31, 2020 at 2:34 am

      Exactly, setting ones that fall within a ‘trend’ isn’t realistic

  7. Siobhán

    December 31, 2020 at 6:19 pm

    I never seem to have my goals finalised completely on Jan 1st, but I have some – I’ll finalise them this week. Some great tips here x

    Beautylymin

    1. The Makeup Aficionado

      December 31, 2020 at 9:53 pm

      Nothing wrong with that! Better to have your goals truly figured out and slapping together anything. x

  8. Chloe

    January 2, 2021 at 1:55 pm

    I definitely agree that knowing yourself and what is realistic you for to achieve in a day is crucial!
    Chloe X https://www.chloepryce.com/

    1. The Makeup Aficionado

      January 2, 2021 at 8:09 pm

      It makes such a difference to one’s mindset and reducing negative thoughts/self-bashing

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